A kindergarten teacher decided to let her class play a game. The teacher told each child in the class to bring along a plastic bag containing a few potatoes. Each potato will be given a name of a person that the child hates, so the number of potatoes that a child will put in his/her plastic bag will depend on the number of people he/she hates.
So when the day came, every child brought some potatoes with the name of the people he/she hated. Some had 2 potatoes; some 3 while some up to 5 potatoes.
The teacher then told the children to carry with them the potatoes in the plastic bag wherever they go (even to the toilet) for one week. Days after days passed by, and the children started to complain due to the unpleasant smell let out by the rotten potatoes. Besides, those having 5 potatoes also had to carry heavier bags. After one week, the children were relieved because the game had finally ended.
The teacher asked: "How did you feel while carrying the potatoes with you for one week?" The children let out their frustrations and started complaining of the trouble that they had to go through having to carry the heavy and smelly potatoes wherever they go.
Then the teacher told them the hidden meaning behind the game. The teacher said: "This is exactly the situation when you carry your hatred for somebody inside your heart. The stench of hatred will contaminate your heart and you will carry it with you wherever you go. If you cannot tolerate the smell of rotten potatoes for just one week, can you imagine what is it like to have the stench of hatred in your heart for your lifetime???"
Throw away any hatred for anyone from your heart. Forgiving others is the best attitude to take!
Warm Regards
Friday, February 12, 2010
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
Look Beyond Behavior
Have you ever heard yourself, or someone else, say: "Don't mind, he didn't know what he was doing"? If so, you have been exposed to the wisdom of "looking beyond behavior."
While dealing with children, we all know very well the importance of - simple act of forgiveness. If we all based our love on children's behavior, it would often be difficult to love them at all. If love were based purely on behavior, then perhaps none of us would ever have been loved as a teenager!
Wouldn't it be nice if we could try to extend this same loving-kindness toward everyone we meet? Wouldn't we live in a more loving community if, when someone acted in a way that we didn't approve of, we could see their actions in a similar light as our teenager's bad behavior?
This doesn't mean that we walk around and pretend that everything is always wonderful, allow others to "walk all over us," or that we excuse or approve of negative behavior. Instead, it simply means having the perspective to give others the benefit of the doubt.
Know that when your assistant is moving slowly, he is probably having a bad day, or perhaps all of his days are bad. Looking beyond behavior gives us the perspective to not get upset and disappointed with every bad behavior of others.
Regards
Rakesh Patil
www.folknet.in
While dealing with children, we all know very well the importance of - simple act of forgiveness. If we all based our love on children's behavior, it would often be difficult to love them at all. If love were based purely on behavior, then perhaps none of us would ever have been loved as a teenager!
Wouldn't it be nice if we could try to extend this same loving-kindness toward everyone we meet? Wouldn't we live in a more loving community if, when someone acted in a way that we didn't approve of, we could see their actions in a similar light as our teenager's bad behavior?
This doesn't mean that we walk around and pretend that everything is always wonderful, allow others to "walk all over us," or that we excuse or approve of negative behavior. Instead, it simply means having the perspective to give others the benefit of the doubt.
Know that when your assistant is moving slowly, he is probably having a bad day, or perhaps all of his days are bad. Looking beyond behavior gives us the perspective to not get upset and disappointed with every bad behavior of others.
Regards
Rakesh Patil
www.folknet.in
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Happy Birthday time..
It's a day when all our friends and family members, remember and send their wishes. The day when you get lots of surprises. The day when you get lots of sweets. The day which is celebrated in the remembrance of the day on which you cried for the very first time. Yes it's the day, when you had born. BIRTHDAY. From last 6 years continuously, my birthday is being celebrated in such a way, that these 6 birthday celebrations are memorable and I still keep cherishing those fantastic moments. Every year it was a different type of celebration with different types of surprises.
This year was also a bit different and memorable one. The gifts started pouring the very previous day of my birthday itself. With lots of work pressure, I was working in my office, when our receptionist came and informed me, that there is a gift parcel for you. I asked her to reconfirm whether it is for me or to someone else, because I had not given my office address to anyone and was not expecting any mails or parcels other than some official, or bank related stuffs. She said, "It is to Mr. Rakesh Patil, from Environ Softwares Pvt. Ltd."
I was like taken back for a moment, thinking what parcel it might be and who might have sent it? I told her to keep it, i'll collect it later. She said OK. Then I tried to concentrate on my work. But the parcel was distracting me. So, i left my work and went to the reception desk, got the parcel to my desk. It was a real big surprise for me when I saw the sender's address. It had come from Goa. It was no one other then my sweet sister and my Jiju. I immediately teared apart the gift cover, and found a nice piece of shirt in my hand. Well, here I want to make one point. For most of my birthdays I'm getting a same color of various shades of same color shirt. I am still trying to solve this mystery.. ;-) It was a birthday gift for me. At that time I came to know that the next day is 29th January, my birthday. I was very happy. I thought of calling them immediately and thank them both. But, I stopped myself thinking that, anyhow tomorrow they'll be calling me, so why should I call? ;) Then I continued with my work.
One of my friend called Keerthi Laxmi, told me that she wanted to discuss something after dinner, so dont sleep. I came to know that this girl wants to wish me on my birthday so telling me simply all these stuffs. So just to pull her legs, I said I'm very tired, whatever you want to tell, tell now itself. After so much of argument, she finally wished me my birthday(advance wishes). This girl, even after being the first one to wish me through SMS, kept on wishing the next day. I guess she might have wished more than 20 times. Anyways, I had actually scheduled my plan to sleep early that night. But somehow I was forced to be awake till 11.00. And later when I was just about to doze off... zz.zzzz.zzzzzzz, my mobile started shouting on top of its voice. At that point I realized, it is 0000 hrs of 29th January. It was a call from one of my close friend, Saikat. He wished me and disconnected immediately asking me to sleep. Just after that, Haresh from Goa called and we spoke for around 10 minutes. After that I got a call from Rajita and Kavitesh. All the time while speaking to my friends, one of my office colleague and new friend, named Shankar, was watching 3 idiots. He also wished me on my birthday.
29th Morning I woke up early and had bath. Asked Shankar also to get ready early. Then we went to temple and straight to office. That day my boss was supposed to leave to Goa. So he was busy preparing some official documents and all. I went and gave him sweets, then I gave sweets to everyone. Sir left office at 11.00 and then I was free to recieve calls. As soon as sir left, Lavanya handed over my hands a BIIIGGGG box, beautifully packed with gift paper. I asked her, "Whats inside?" She didn't reply anything and wished me. At the same time, Girish also wished. I was very eager to open it and see. As my boss wasn't there, I opened it then and there throwing bits of papers down on the floor.. :-) First I opened a gift paper. I was confused to see the box of Pressure Cooker. For a friction of second, I thought, that like previous year, this time also, this guys might give me some dummy gift.
Last year, I had been given a baby feeding bottle as a dummy gift, packed in a TATA Sky setup box.:-) It was a real fun. Then Slowly I opened the box and was very happy to see the Bag. I was very very very happy. I was so happy that, I don't know how many times I said "thank you" to them. Girish told me to Open and check the bag properly. I thought he might be telling to check if any fault is there in bag, and so I said, "It's OK". Then Lavanya said, "Some more things are there inside the bag. So Open and see."
I opened first zip of the bag, and found it was my favourite Fruit 'N' Nut choclate. Then she told me, "It's my idea to keep something inside and give. So Gourish had put something or the other in each pocket of the Bag." Now this was a big surprise. He had arranged everything and gone to Goa. Total all together, 2 5-stars, 1 dairy milk, 1 Fruit-'N'Nut and 3 busicuits packets were there. And those busicuits were also of my likes. I just thought that Gourish had thoroughly studied my likes and dislikes. First, the bag color and design. It was fantastic. Next, my favourite choclate, next my favourite Busicuit. Superb planning. I gave two choclates and to Lavanya and asked her to give it to her son. Then distributed remaining eatables to all other office employees. Then, full day was on mobiles. Attending calls after calls. Then evening after office hours, went to a nearby hotel, and gave dinner party to my office members and neighbours. Overall, it was really a nice day. And the day went nice, all because of my family and friend's love and wishes. Thanks a lot and may god keeps them all happy forever.
This year was also a bit different and memorable one. The gifts started pouring the very previous day of my birthday itself. With lots of work pressure, I was working in my office, when our receptionist came and informed me, that there is a gift parcel for you. I asked her to reconfirm whether it is for me or to someone else, because I had not given my office address to anyone and was not expecting any mails or parcels other than some official, or bank related stuffs. She said, "It is to Mr. Rakesh Patil, from Environ Softwares Pvt. Ltd."
I was like taken back for a moment, thinking what parcel it might be and who might have sent it? I told her to keep it, i'll collect it later. She said OK. Then I tried to concentrate on my work. But the parcel was distracting me. So, i left my work and went to the reception desk, got the parcel to my desk. It was a real big surprise for me when I saw the sender's address. It had come from Goa. It was no one other then my sweet sister and my Jiju. I immediately teared apart the gift cover, and found a nice piece of shirt in my hand. Well, here I want to make one point. For most of my birthdays I'm getting a same color of various shades of same color shirt. I am still trying to solve this mystery.. ;-) It was a birthday gift for me. At that time I came to know that the next day is 29th January, my birthday. I was very happy. I thought of calling them immediately and thank them both. But, I stopped myself thinking that, anyhow tomorrow they'll be calling me, so why should I call? ;) Then I continued with my work.
One of my friend called Keerthi Laxmi, told me that she wanted to discuss something after dinner, so dont sleep. I came to know that this girl wants to wish me on my birthday so telling me simply all these stuffs. So just to pull her legs, I said I'm very tired, whatever you want to tell, tell now itself. After so much of argument, she finally wished me my birthday(advance wishes). This girl, even after being the first one to wish me through SMS, kept on wishing the next day. I guess she might have wished more than 20 times. Anyways, I had actually scheduled my plan to sleep early that night. But somehow I was forced to be awake till 11.00. And later when I was just about to doze off... zz.zzzz.zzzzzzz, my mobile started shouting on top of its voice. At that point I realized, it is 0000 hrs of 29th January. It was a call from one of my close friend, Saikat. He wished me and disconnected immediately asking me to sleep. Just after that, Haresh from Goa called and we spoke for around 10 minutes. After that I got a call from Rajita and Kavitesh. All the time while speaking to my friends, one of my office colleague and new friend, named Shankar, was watching 3 idiots. He also wished me on my birthday.
29th Morning I woke up early and had bath. Asked Shankar also to get ready early. Then we went to temple and straight to office. That day my boss was supposed to leave to Goa. So he was busy preparing some official documents and all. I went and gave him sweets, then I gave sweets to everyone. Sir left office at 11.00 and then I was free to recieve calls. As soon as sir left, Lavanya handed over my hands a BIIIGGGG box, beautifully packed with gift paper. I asked her, "Whats inside?" She didn't reply anything and wished me. At the same time, Girish also wished. I was very eager to open it and see. As my boss wasn't there, I opened it then and there throwing bits of papers down on the floor.. :-) First I opened a gift paper. I was confused to see the box of Pressure Cooker. For a friction of second, I thought, that like previous year, this time also, this guys might give me some dummy gift.
Last year, I had been given a baby feeding bottle as a dummy gift, packed in a TATA Sky setup box.:-) It was a real fun. Then Slowly I opened the box and was very happy to see the Bag. I was very very very happy. I was so happy that, I don't know how many times I said "thank you" to them. Girish told me to Open and check the bag properly. I thought he might be telling to check if any fault is there in bag, and so I said, "It's OK". Then Lavanya said, "Some more things are there inside the bag. So Open and see."
I opened first zip of the bag, and found it was my favourite Fruit 'N' Nut choclate. Then she told me, "It's my idea to keep something inside and give. So Gourish had put something or the other in each pocket of the Bag." Now this was a big surprise. He had arranged everything and gone to Goa. Total all together, 2 5-stars, 1 dairy milk, 1 Fruit-'N'Nut and 3 busicuits packets were there. And those busicuits were also of my likes. I just thought that Gourish had thoroughly studied my likes and dislikes. First, the bag color and design. It was fantastic. Next, my favourite choclate, next my favourite Busicuit. Superb planning. I gave two choclates and to Lavanya and asked her to give it to her son. Then distributed remaining eatables to all other office employees. Then, full day was on mobiles. Attending calls after calls. Then evening after office hours, went to a nearby hotel, and gave dinner party to my office members and neighbours. Overall, it was really a nice day. And the day went nice, all because of my family and friend's love and wishes. Thanks a lot and may god keeps them all happy forever.
Sunday, January 17, 2010
Short and Sweet Break
14th January, 2010, just one day before the day when solar eclipse was observed this year. The day on which people in some part of India celebrate festival known as "MAKARA SANKRANTI", whereas the same festival in South is being celebrated as "PONGAL". For me this day was a remarkable one.
14th January, 2010 was on wednesday. My aunt and cousins forced me to apply leave on that day. Because they had planned to go to the place called Mulbagal, just 65-70Km away from Bangalore city. With the grace of God, I anyhow managed to get a leave on that day. Tuesday evening I left early from office and straight away went to busstand, where we all were supposed to meet. I had been informed to reach there before 7.30pm as it was the last bus and after 7.30pm no bus were there to go to that place. I managed to reach bus stand by 7.15 pm. Go to see, these guys were late. :-) Finally they reached at 7.35pm and bus left at 7.50pm. Every one got settled and our journey started. We reached our destination at around 11.10 pm.
One of my aunt's son stays there in Mulbagal. He is married and has two small kids. One boy named Vishnuteertha, and one girl named Vishnupriya. Well, this visit of mine to that place was exactly after 9 years. So many new houses, constructions, etc had come up. But the house was same. No much changes were found. Since, i had directly come from my work place, they had arranged dinner for me. All other my companions had come with their stomach full. After completing dinner, everyone started to sleep. Now since it was our meeting after a long long time, we were chatting for a long time and slept late at around 2am or 2:30am.
Next day morning, I got up from my dreams at 6.15am. But accept my grand mother and my aunt no one else was awake. So I also slept again and got up at 8.30am. My aunt suggested us boys to have bath over head. As usual, I was feeling lazy to get up from bed.:-) The time when I got up was good I guess, full day later was so good. I guess you people might have seen in some movies where on some festivals, mothers apply oil to their son's/husbands, to have bath on head. After that nice hot water is poured over them. This is a tradition in south India which people still follow. Same thing was done with me. My aunt applied oil, on my head, to my hands, legs, face, back etc. Oil was overflowing from my hairs. Then hot water bath was arranged. My aunt was pouring hot water bath on me. All the while, when i was being bathed, Vishnupriya was stading at the door entrance and watching me, being bathed. She is really cute looking girl. Then when my aunt was applying shikakai on my head, that girl came closer and asked my aunt, "why are you applying again and again?" Actually, that was third time my aunt was applying shikakai on my head. My aunt smiled and said, "We should apply and rinse it till foam is formed. THe foam is the indication that the dirt has gone off."
Then cute girl with innocent face, asked, "Can I also rub?"
My aunt said, "Sure".
Then she came closer and told me, "Close your eyes uncle, or else it will burn." and started rubbing.:-)
I couldn't stop myself from lauging. Being a small girl, she is giving me instructions as if, she is my mothe and I'm her kid. After having bath, I performed my daily rituals. Then we went to a place called, Narsimhateertha, where Sripaad Rayar Matha is there. One speciality of this place is that, there are lots of Monkeys around. You can imagine the temple environment. A small, sarovar near the temple, a big banyan tree, and nice cool breeze blowing. It was a great feeling. Visiting that place after 9 years, each and every object was making me to think what all fun we were doing there 9 years back. In other words, old memories became gold. After coming out of temple, we went home. While going back home, my cousin purchased, milk powder. I asked her "why is this required?"
She said, "A surprise is waiting for you."
I also smiled and kept mum. After reaching home, I had lunch as I had to come back to bangalore. They were forcing me to stay back. But, I had to resume my work next day, as I had got leave for only one day. After having lunch, I become busy watching Photos. There were so many photos, that it took almost, one and half hour to finish scanning all of them. Then when, I was about to get ready, my cousin came with a cake, gave me a piece of cake, and said, belated birthday wishes. That was a real surprise for me. Actually, we in our family, celebrate birthday according to hindu calendar. And this year it was on 12th January. I said, thanks. Ate cake which she gave me and got ready. Finally, after saying alvida to everyone, I started my return journey. I was actually feeling to stay back. But, was forced to go. This day will be memorable one because, it was festival for us, spent time with relatives after a long time, got a surprise birthday cake, and lots of love from our own people. I thanked god for giving me this fortune of celebrating the festival with these people and started walking towards bus stand. On reaching bus stand, saw that the bus was ready with lot of empty seats. I got into the bus, and luckily i found that it was a bypass bus. So that was a short and sweet experience of my visit to Mulbagal to celebrate "MAKAR SANKRANTI" :-)
14th January, 2010 was on wednesday. My aunt and cousins forced me to apply leave on that day. Because they had planned to go to the place called Mulbagal, just 65-70Km away from Bangalore city. With the grace of God, I anyhow managed to get a leave on that day. Tuesday evening I left early from office and straight away went to busstand, where we all were supposed to meet. I had been informed to reach there before 7.30pm as it was the last bus and after 7.30pm no bus were there to go to that place. I managed to reach bus stand by 7.15 pm. Go to see, these guys were late. :-) Finally they reached at 7.35pm and bus left at 7.50pm. Every one got settled and our journey started. We reached our destination at around 11.10 pm.
One of my aunt's son stays there in Mulbagal. He is married and has two small kids. One boy named Vishnuteertha, and one girl named Vishnupriya. Well, this visit of mine to that place was exactly after 9 years. So many new houses, constructions, etc had come up. But the house was same. No much changes were found. Since, i had directly come from my work place, they had arranged dinner for me. All other my companions had come with their stomach full. After completing dinner, everyone started to sleep. Now since it was our meeting after a long long time, we were chatting for a long time and slept late at around 2am or 2:30am.
Next day morning, I got up from my dreams at 6.15am. But accept my grand mother and my aunt no one else was awake. So I also slept again and got up at 8.30am. My aunt suggested us boys to have bath over head. As usual, I was feeling lazy to get up from bed.:-) The time when I got up was good I guess, full day later was so good. I guess you people might have seen in some movies where on some festivals, mothers apply oil to their son's/husbands, to have bath on head. After that nice hot water is poured over them. This is a tradition in south India which people still follow. Same thing was done with me. My aunt applied oil, on my head, to my hands, legs, face, back etc. Oil was overflowing from my hairs. Then hot water bath was arranged. My aunt was pouring hot water bath on me. All the while, when i was being bathed, Vishnupriya was stading at the door entrance and watching me, being bathed. She is really cute looking girl. Then when my aunt was applying shikakai on my head, that girl came closer and asked my aunt, "why are you applying again and again?" Actually, that was third time my aunt was applying shikakai on my head. My aunt smiled and said, "We should apply and rinse it till foam is formed. THe foam is the indication that the dirt has gone off."
Then cute girl with innocent face, asked, "Can I also rub?"
My aunt said, "Sure".
Then she came closer and told me, "Close your eyes uncle, or else it will burn." and started rubbing.:-)
I couldn't stop myself from lauging. Being a small girl, she is giving me instructions as if, she is my mothe and I'm her kid. After having bath, I performed my daily rituals. Then we went to a place called, Narsimhateertha, where Sripaad Rayar Matha is there. One speciality of this place is that, there are lots of Monkeys around. You can imagine the temple environment. A small, sarovar near the temple, a big banyan tree, and nice cool breeze blowing. It was a great feeling. Visiting that place after 9 years, each and every object was making me to think what all fun we were doing there 9 years back. In other words, old memories became gold. After coming out of temple, we went home. While going back home, my cousin purchased, milk powder. I asked her "why is this required?"
She said, "A surprise is waiting for you."
I also smiled and kept mum. After reaching home, I had lunch as I had to come back to bangalore. They were forcing me to stay back. But, I had to resume my work next day, as I had got leave for only one day. After having lunch, I become busy watching Photos. There were so many photos, that it took almost, one and half hour to finish scanning all of them. Then when, I was about to get ready, my cousin came with a cake, gave me a piece of cake, and said, belated birthday wishes. That was a real surprise for me. Actually, we in our family, celebrate birthday according to hindu calendar. And this year it was on 12th January. I said, thanks. Ate cake which she gave me and got ready. Finally, after saying alvida to everyone, I started my return journey. I was actually feeling to stay back. But, was forced to go. This day will be memorable one because, it was festival for us, spent time with relatives after a long time, got a surprise birthday cake, and lots of love from our own people. I thanked god for giving me this fortune of celebrating the festival with these people and started walking towards bus stand. On reaching bus stand, saw that the bus was ready with lot of empty seats. I got into the bus, and luckily i found that it was a bypass bus. So that was a short and sweet experience of my visit to Mulbagal to celebrate "MAKAR SANKRANTI" :-)
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