We Simply Wait for Our Chance to Speak

If you observe the conversations around you, you’ll notice that, often, what
many of us do is simply wait for our chance to speak. We’re not really
listening to the other person, but simply waiting for an opening to express
our own view. We often complete other people’s sentences, or say things
like, “Yeah, yeah,” or “I know,” very rapidly, urging them to hurry up so
that we can have our turn.

This harried form of communication encourages us to criticize points of
view, overreact, misinterpret meaning, and form opinions, all before
ourfellow communicator is even finished speaking. No wonder
we are so often annoyed, bothered, and irritated with one another.
Sometimes, with our poor listening skills, it’s a miracle that we have any
friends at all!

You’ll be pleasantly amazed at the softer reactions and looks of surprise as
you let others completely finish their thought before you begin yours.
Often, you will be allowing someone to feel listened to for the very first
time. You will sense a feeling of relief coming from the person to whom you
are speaking – and a much calmer, less rushed feeling between the two of
you.

No need to worry that you won’t get your turn to speak --- you will. In
fact, it will be more rewarding to speak because the person you are speaking
to will pick up on your respect and patience and will begin to do the same.

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